Sunday, February 22, 2009

To co-sleep or not co-sleep, that's the question

I visited JuiceBoxJungle for the first time, and this particular episode on co-sleeping highlights one of my (many) current dilemmas:

More parenting videos on JuiceBoxJungle


Initially, Isaac slept in his crib, placed next to me. It wasn't exactly what is called a "side-car" arrangement, where the crib would be left opened and the two mattresses would be at the same level. Back then, bed-sharing (i.e., baby and mommy sleeping in the same bed) was something I specifically didn't want to do--I'm a notoriously bad sleeper, rolling over everywhere--and co-sleeping was just out of necessity.

As a new mom, I didn't know babies don't sleep deeply very often. I was so anxious about every single little noise or move Isaac made. Unfortunately, when Isaac was (and is) in a lighter sleep state, he made a lot of noises. I would wake up to every single one of them, and it drove my already sleep-deprived self crazy.

We eventually moved Isaac's crib to the den next to the bookshelves. I didn't like the arrangement (and still don't do), fearing one day he would grab one of the books or somehow the books would fall onto him.

When Isaac started sleeping through the night consistently, my "new mom" spidery senses to Isaac's noise has dampened somewhat when I sleep. I can now be fairly well-rested! One minor problem: he was sleeping 7pm-5am, meaning I had to drag myself up from my very deep sleep and spend at least an hour awake for a diaper change, nocturnal feeding, and putting him back to sleep.

Wouldn't it be nice, I thought, not having to stay awake and put him back to sleep at least?

Why, bed-sharing promised that! I can just nurse him while I sleep!

In fact, I bed-shared with him a few times on a futon in the living room. Those were mostly morning naps, when I just needed more snooze myself. It helped me get more much-needed rest.

However, co-sleeping wasn't without drawbacks. When I bed-shared with Isaac, both of us were more easily waken by the other party. Also, Isaac became harder to put to sleep in his own crib afterward.

There's also another problem: Isaac's eczema. When we co-sleep and I nurse him in bed, he would be sleeping on his side, with his cheek (where the eczema is most severe) constantly rubbing on the bed sheet. It causes his eczema to flare up even more! Since then, I haven't co-slept with him.

I bought a safety guard rail, to be installed on my bed, hoping I can bring Isaac over to our bed once his eczema subsided. It may or may not work out, but I want to give it a shot.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Multiple Blessings

This Valentine's Day, Daniel bought me a gift I'm valuing very much: the book Multiple Blessings: Surviving To Thriving With Twins And Sextuplets.

Daniel and I are both fans of the show, Jon & Kate Plus 8. Actually, "fans" is not quite the correct term, but we both enjoy watching the show and marvelling at how they manage to survive. After Isaac's birth, we became doubly (or I should say octoply) amazed at the challenges the Gosselins face every day.

I began reading the book in bed two nights ago and found myself couldn't put it down. By the time I finally gave in to both my crashing body and my tired-but-rational mind, it was already 3am and I had devoured half of it.

Given the many episodes of the TV show I've watched, I was surprised at the religious tone of the book. Bible was heavily quoted, and God was always referenced. However, I was not put off--not a single bit--when I see Scriptures worked their way into the book. It just felt natural. Maybe that's just the way many Americans/Christians talk, I thought.

Surprisingly, Daniel picked up the book last night and read beyond where I was at in a single sitting. He is generally not an avid reader, so the book must be genuinely of interest to him for it to be read. Maybe it was because I gave him a summarized rundown of the book (so far) at dinner time, something I always do when I read a book or an article I really like.

The book provided answers Daniel and I long had while watching the show. Namely, "how did they end up with sextuplets?" and "how could they manage financially?"

Personally, "Multiple Blessings" became a reminder of how loved I am by my drop-dead-gorgeous husband. I buy books regularly, but this book just wasn't on my ever-growing wish list. Like Kate Gosselin, I feel truly blessed to have such a wonderful husband!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

First Road Trip

Since the past Monday was the oh-so-originally-named holiday Family Day, which coincidentally was another-originally-named holiday President's Day in US, we decided to hit the QEW and cross the border.


What for, you ask?  Shopping, of course!


Isaac's eczema has gotten worse, and, in the hope of improvement, I took Isaac to see the paediatrician last week, who, in addition to prescribing a 1% hydrocortisone cream, advised us that the zipper on his sleeper would rub against his face when we hold him.  Upon hearing that, I immediately halted dressing him in any sleepers with zipper, which was the majority of his sleepers, unfortunately.  And since I hate kimono-style tie-on clothing with a capital H, we're pretty much left with sleepers with snap buttons. We had about 6 of them, 2 of which he had pretty much outgrown.

Hence the need to shop for new baby clothes.

I went to Toys'R'Us and Walmart numerous times, even hitting Dear Born Baby once.  The sleepers offered were mostly a disappointment though -- they were either not using snap buttons, not soft enough, not cute enough (very important too!), too expensive, or any combination thereof.

(I did, however, buy a bottle of Seventh Generation baby laundry detergent at Dear Born Baby.)

Since Daniel has been raving about the great selection and price of baby stuff in the States, especially at Target, we had been contemplating a trip down south for quite some time.  A long weekend seemed as good as any excuse to hit the road anyway, so of we went on Sunday.

We didn't plan to do any sightseeing stuff -- after all, Isaac's not going to know the difference between Niagara Falls and our own shower, and it was too cold anyway.

Instead, our trip was squarely focused on shopping.  We checked the location and hours of the Target, Walmart, Babies'R'Us and outlet mall closest to the border and planned our route accordingly.

Despite being supposedly busy helping out Daniel's brother's family with the new baby, Daniel's mom said she needed a breather and joined us on the trip too.  May as well, I'd say, since she is shopping for 5 grandchildren!

Our first stop was Prime Outlets.  The stores we visited, in this order:
  1. Gap Baby & Kids -- nothing of good value (we checked out the adult side as well, and bought 2 pieces for ourselves).
  2. The Children's Place -- nothing of good value neither.
  3. Carter's -- decent price and styles.  We eventually went back and bought 2 sleepers, a pack of 4 onesies, plus a toy.
  4. Osh Kosh -- too expensive.
In case you're wondering: yes, they are all children/baby clothing stores!  Daniel's mom bought a few pieces of clothing at Carter's for one of her granddaughters as well.

Daniel kept reminding us not to get too worked up, since we still haven't gone to Target yet, and he promised we'd love shopping there.  Of course, he spoke from experience, because he was the one who bought most of Isaac's initial clothes when he was on business trips to US!

Since Isaac woke up right at the beginning of our shopping--and I didn't like the idea of him strapped in the car seat for too long--I carried Isaac in my trusty Moby Wrap again.  That drew quite a few other shoppers' attention.  They thought it looked quite cute, I think.  All the time in the mall, I saw one other mom carrying her newborn (less than 1 month, I'd say) in a wrap, and that was it.  All other babies were in strollers.  A higher proportion of toddlers were carried, possibly because they were awake.

After visiting all these children's clothing stores, I needed a break, and Isaac was getting hungry.  Since Isaac hasn't re-mastered drinking from bottle, finding a spot to breastfeed him wasn't easy.  Unlike many shopping malls in Toronto, Prime Outlets didn't have a nursing room.  The "best" I could find was an accessible bathroom stall with an extra chair--and frankly, who likes eating in a bathroom?!?!

Initially, we found a table in the food court behind a pillar, but there wasn't enough space between the (fixed) chair and the table.  We decided to go back to the car instead (which I didn't like, because it was still too cold outside), but then I saw a free bench inside the mall.  We took that spot, and I nursed Isaac with a blanket covering him and myself up for a little more privacy. 

It was the first time I've ever nursed Isaac in public.  I must say I was a little surprised how people didn't seem to notice at all.

After I finished nursing Isaac, my MIL told us to get some private time and she'd stay there to take care of Isaac.  Naturally, the first (and ended up being the only) store Daniel and I visited was Nike.  It just seemed that Daniel always need new running shoes or basketball shoes.  Not that he has a lot of shoes or he goes through them fast, but he's very particular in what shoes fit him, and he wouldn't buy them unless they were real bargains.  He found a pair of basketball shoes he likes, but they weren't available in his size.  He also almost bought a pair of bargain running shoes, but there was a minor thing he didn't like (something about the toe box) and he thought they weren't cheap enough to overcome it.

I bought a pair of lightweight running shoes myself.

By the time we went back to Grandma and Isaac, it was almost closing time.  We left the mall and visited our next stop, Target.

The baby's department was like a heaven to us!  I bought two more sleepers, a top, and a pair of sunglasses for Isaac.  I also picked up a babyproofing kit--you know, plugs for power, latches for drawers, etc.  A doll playard for Jessie, and an onesies for her new sister Kelly.

(We even contemplated buying diapers, but found them not much cheaper than TO.)

If I was happy, then Grandma was ecstatic.  She bought two packs of onesies--one for Kelly and another for the upcoming grandchild.  She also bought two outfits for her grandson in HK, and a doll for Jessie.  We dropped almost $150 in about an hour at Target!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Bottle Battle

When Isaac was born, we gave him one bottle every night.  When I decided he wasn't latching on well onto my breast thus needed to be trained well, we stopped giving him the bottle (and pacifier as well).

We still gave him a bottle once in a while, but we let it lapsed for too long (over two weeks), he seemed to have forgotten how to drink from a bottle and started refusing it.

We tried forcing the issue.  I found the original slow-flow nipple was too slow for him and bought some medium flow nipples, but he seemed to choke on them.  He would actually let the nipple into his mouth initially, but refused later on as if something wasn't quite right.  That frustrated us (and him) to no end, and led to some tensions between us. ("Why aren't you trying the bottle every day??  Have you given up on it already??" was an accusation I didn't want to answer.)
As I needed to do some baby-shopping on Monday, I went to Toys'R'Us to specifically look for the most natural-shaped nipple. I found the Adiri Natural Nurser.
At $16.99, the bottle was expensive! But I decided it would be worth it if Isaac doesn't refuse.  I debated between getting stage 1 (0-3mo) or stage 2 (3-6mo).  On one hand, Isaac is 3 months old and is a fast eater.  However, the instruction manual of the bottle suggested using a slower flow bottle when (re)introducing bottle to an exclusively breastfed baby.  I ended up buying a stage 1 bottle.

My next stop was to Dear Born Baby.  Guess what?  The Adiri is $1 cheaper!  Not quite remembering which bottle size did I buy at Toys'R'Us, I bought a stage 2 instead and decided to return the one I bought from Toys'R'Us for refund.

Next come the test.  I read the articles linked from Adiri's website on (re)introducing bottles and decided to give it a shot yesterday.  I filled the stage 1 Adiri with hot water to warm up and soften the nipple, then poured a small amount freshly pumped milk into the bottle.  I gave the bottle to Isaac when he wasn't too hungry, and, to my pleasant surprise, he didn't refuse it!  The bad news is, he was just nibbling and wasn't drinking much from the bottle.  More milk seemed to be on his face than inside his mouth...

I tried again today.  As he wasn't in a very good mood (because I forcefully woke him up after he has just fallen asleep), he refused the bottle.  I then decided to put him on the breast for a little while before giving him the bottle again.  That worked!  This time, he was even drinking!  The stage 1 seemed a little too slow for him, so I'll try stage 2 tomorrow.

Friday, February 6, 2009

Kangaroo Baby!


Kangaroo Baby
Originally uploaded by sundae1888
I bought a baby wrap (Moby Wrap) from the States two weeks ago and have been experimenting with it, even used it a few times at home when my arms complained about holding Isaac for too long.  He didn't like it much as first, but once I figured out it was because he didn't like his head covered, and his neck is strong enough without needing to be covered, things were fine.

Since I had to go to the post office at Sheppard Centre to pick up a parcel on Tuesday, I decided to just "wear" Isaac with my baby wrap and walked over.  (Our condo has "underground" access to Sheppard Centre, but there were more steps of stairs than I could possibly use a stroller on my own.)  I chose to have him in "hug hold", which is having him face me, the more common front-carrying position.  I "borrowed" (without asking) one of Daniel's winter jackets to make sure Isaac was well-covered.  During the whole time, Isaac was looking at me, as if fascinated by this new experience.

After achieving succes, I then decided to take Isaac out of our little apartment every day, even if just for a little walk downstairs in the lobby.  I figured it will give everyone some breather, plus I can a little bit of desparately-needed exercise.

The next day, I put on the baby wrap, and took Isaac out just for a little walk to the post office again. (I had a few letters needed to be sent.)  This time though, I chose the "Joey Hold", which is the front-carrying position where he faces the front (outward) instead of me.  My mom was around as well, so I asked her to snap a few pictures of us before we left home.

To both my mom's and my surprise, Isaac actually fell asleep during our short little excursion -- yes, in an upright position, with all the distractions going on!  We found this absolutely cute and adorable, so we took a few more pictures, such as the one I've included in this post.

Since we were out around afternoon rush hour, Sheppard Centre was filled with many fast-paced office workers eager to head home, as usual.  We did, however, attracted more than a few glances, especially after Isaac has fallen asleep.

Wearing Isaac in a baby wrap felt more natural as opposed to the BabyTrekker baby carrier, although it offers less support and a little more involved.  Comparing to taking him out in a stroller, I felt much more agile and liberated, which may sound strange until you try manuvring a stroller to places without automatic doors or, worse yet, with only stairs and no ramp.

I can't wait until the weather gets better, so I can take Isaac out to the park in the wrap!

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Muffin Time


Lactose-free muffin
Originally uploaded by sundae1888
Daniel's niece Jessie is on a fructose-free and lactose-free diet, which means she can't have most of the baked goodies many people love.

Finding lactose-free recipes aren't too difficult, since most of the time milk can be substituted with soy. Fructose-free means no fruits or, more tricky, sugar. That eliminates almost all natural sweetening agents often used in baking recipes.

While there are still a sizable selection of "no sugar added" or "lactose-free" candies and baked goods available in-store, it's much harder to find things that satisfy both criteria while still catering to the sweet tooth.

I found one such promising product from a health food store: lactose-free and no-sugar-added (and gluten-free, soy-free, nut-free) muffin mix. I checked the ingredient list, and sure enough, there was no milk products or sugar/sugar-like products listed! I immediately bought a pack and decided to bake them for Jessie.

We did just that this afternoon before visiting them. However, Daniel couldn't resist adding some blueberries to two of the muffins (for himself; hence the picture), and I added some crumbled walnuts to two other.

The resulting product was more like a biscuit, both in terms of shape, colour, and texture, less the buttery taste.

Obviously, the blueberry muffin shown in the picture is off-limits to Jessie. It went into Daniel's stomach instead.